Friday, December 30, 2011

New Years Resolutions AND Government

I'll talk about 2 things today - my New Years Resolutions and the government (essentially, what I would do if I could run the government myself).

First off, my New Years resolutions.

First and foremost, I would like to attempt to improve my body image. This will mainly take place in January, but I would like to focus on burning the calories I eat as opposed to just changing my diet. I also plan to eat healthier, but not reduce how much I eat or any bullshit like that. I think adjusting how much you eat, especially if you don't think you eat all that much to begin with, is the stupidest thing I've heard of. My roommate in my first semester would literally eat once a day and she was NOT skinny at all. Eating less forces your body to turn it to fat instantly because it thinks you're starving (and you are). Eating vegetables, fruit, and meats (mainly fish and chicken) instead is healthier.

As always, I would like to become more studious and less lazy. I'm angering myself at my laziness when it comes to classes.

I plan to study abroad by fall this year. In order to do this, I must earn a minimum of $1950 between now and September. Ideally, I would like to earn $4500, but that's the height of my goal. I may also, in my second semester in college abroad, take up a part-time job depending on how funds are running, but hopefully this is a last resort.

And finally - earn at least $5k in scholarships, preferably $15K or more.



Next Section - The Government.

For whatever reason, the majority of the cuts the Tea Party have pushed forward cut opportunities for MY generation (age group 15-25). Neither side of the budget debate really touched on Social Security, Medicare/Medicaid or even the Defense budget. I will state that sometimes things look better on paper and have issues being applied, but if you have a comment/disagreement, please post. I like discussing these things - not arguing over them.

First off, we need to focus on home. Pull completely out of Afghanistan - not only does our presence further incite hatred of the locals, but we are not the police of the world. It is not our job to dictate what government a country should have. We argue that the Taliban are a threat to national security, etc, etc, but what's the point if the government can't spend the money it needs to on it's own people? Our soldiers die for oil, not for a true cause. We have to leave sometime, might as well get it over with and stop wasting trillions of tax payer dollars.

I would like to further my commentary on military spending by stating that the government black-budgets the Department of Defense. Meaning there is considerable spending that goes unreported in the discretionary budget (military research and such). I also feel that the power of the TSA should be limited and their budget cut back a bit. They really pushed the expensive full body scanners and while they've published a bunch of reports on them, apparently several independent research agencies (the American Cancer Society and several universities) have said that the published reports do not have verifiable data or good comparisons. This leads me to believe that proper research on such machines hasn't been done, so why are we spending hundreds of thousands of dollars on things that have the possibility of giving citizens cancer? Plus, the TSA has NEVER caught a terrorist. They use what has been called "security theater", it makes you feel safe that they put certain measures in, but they're not actually effective. I feel like those hired for such jobs do NOT get proper background checks as well as being corrupt (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transportation_Security_Administration#Criticisms).

The tax-cut shit. Yes, people are hard pressed and everyone hates it when taxes rise. It's the most common theme across history. Budget gets low? Tax the poor even more! However - raise the taxes on those who make more than a certain amount. The rich don't even pay taxes on the full amount of their money anyway, using bank games and a large transfer network, most millionaires/billionaires avoid getting taxed for the full amount of their fortune. I would say to raise corporate taxes too, but I feel like that might have negative effects on the economy (essentially the consumer would pay for it anyway). Eliminating tax breaks for oil companies is a good idea, but again, I feel like it'll come back to the consumer anyway.

Require a means test for Social Security and Medicare. There is probably a large percentage of people that depend entirely on social security and medicare. They can keep it. It's the older folk I know that pull in a considerable amount in retirement that also collect both SS and Medicare that piss me off. We, the younger folk, pay for the older folk to retire. A lot of people argue that they paid into it, so they should get it. However, not only is it the LARGEST part of our nation's budget, but people who don't actually need it are able to get it because of the paid-in BS. I'm 19 and I pay for social security, an unsustainable program that will eventually need to be cut. I will likely never see the money I paid into it, despite that it's promised to me. Reduce it now, before it just needs to be straight up cut. Medicare too - reduce it based on a means test. I find it ridiculously that I'm paying for elderly individuals to get healthcare. I'm a healthy person - I only visit the doctor a couples times a year, if that. If they can afford it otherwise, they should, rather than depending on their grandchild to pay for them.

IMPROVE the Department of Education. I don't remember which GOP runner wanted to cut it, but that's the most annoying thing of all. Don't cut, improve, the department of Education. It should not be left entirely up to the states AND I feel that there should be certain mandates country wide. It would make it easier for students to transfer from a different state if the majority of core requirements (for instance, an improved version of no-child left behind) were the same. The NCLB act was a good idea, but put into poor action. Since I took the HSAs, which were required to graduate, I have found that they have made them increasingly easier. This I disagree with - graduating high school isn't required in life. I feel like they dumb everything down, even in the accelerated classes, in the majority of the country. I literally never had to try until my senior year of high school and even then, I still graduated with a 4.25 GPA. I do believe some requirements should be left up to the state, but schools should remain religion free. There is diversity in schools and teaching Christian beliefs to those who practice other religions is setting the school up for fights based on religion.

Either adjust financial aid requirements or eliminate the programs. We're already loosing this battle - my dad works with big brains and it is increasingly foreigners. The financial aid requirements haven't changed since the early 90s, but college costs have increased by at least 4X that. Student loans don't help either - having massive amounts of debt upon graduation prevents our younger generations from buying a house, a car and spending in general. I say if the financial aid requirements cannot be increased, then eliminate the program entirely. Yes, people would rage, but colleges would no longer be able to charge terrifying amounts of money because few could pay it. Supply and demand - if the supply cannot be afforded, the demand goes down and prices must go down to increase the demand again.


Ugh, when I start thinking about all the problems, it makes my head hurt. There is no one solution, nor is it as black and white as I have posted.

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Webcomics Galore!

So awhile back (I think it was June?), I mentioned some webcomics. Well, I have since found a lot of rather good ones. I will not review them each (I think I have 10?), but I will give each a brief synopsis. The fact they are posted is because I recommend them and I will repeat the previously mentioned ones.


Tea House
http://teahousecomic.com/news.html

Tea House is a delightful comic about a brothel of the same name. It's 18+ for obvious plot-related reasons. The artwork is spectacular, the characters with unique personalities and back stories and the buttsecks...is buttsecks. A must-read for any yaoi fan. Updates every Wednesday, unless otherwise specified. Pages done in full color.


STARFIGHTER
http://starfightercomic.com/index.php

A science fiction comic about Cain and Abel. There is rather naughty buttsecks and the author is absolutely adorable. Again, it's 18+ (sorry minors). It's currently on a little hiatus as the artist is working on some sort of comic related project. Updates sporadically with pages in a odd, but unique sort of color format.


STRAYS

http://www.straysonline.com/

An interesting fantasy comic about a mercenary and a young girl. For those that love slowly revealed worldly bits, this is a great comic. With every couple pages, I'm left wondering about something that happened. Lots of relationship building (and not in a pervy way, as some weird people keep getting excited over an estimated 26 year old "caring" for a 12 year old. It's a sibling-like relationship, idiots). Currently on a hiatus until January 6th because one of the creators is home for the holidays, but updates on Fridays and pages are in full color.


Sandra and Woo

http://www.sandraandwoo.com/

An adorable little comic with shorts about a raccoon named Woo and a girl named Sandra. There are both arcs and oneshots mixed together. Each arc/oneshot has a theme based off of whatever the author credits in the comment section. Definitely recommend to anyone who enjoyed Calvin and Hobbs. It usually updates about twice a week, around Wednesday and Friday. It used to be black and white, but they recently invested in a coloring artist.

GAIA
http://www.sandraandwoo.com/gaia/

Gaia is a fantasy comic that started about a month or two ago. It is from the creators of Sandra and Woo; hence the shared website. I recommend it because not only is the art well done, but it seems to have quite the potential. I'm not sure of the update schedule yet, but I'm pretty sure it's once a week minimum. Full color.


Artifice

http://webcomics.yaoi911.com/about/

Artifice is a science-fiction comic about an android soldier who falls in love with the "enemy". Seems interesting enough. There isn't really explicit buttsecks, but it's strong enough that I'd give it a PG-13 rating minimal. The comic updates on Saturdays, but lately the donators have been donating enough to make it come out consistently on Wednesdays as well (so twice weekly). Full color.


The Meek

http://www.meekcomic.com/about/

I have to say, this comic has a LOT of potential. It's relatively well written and the artwork is good. It's about a girl raised in a forest commune who has to save the world. However, it hasn't really progressed all that far in the past 3 years due to highly sporadic updates (sometimes spanning months with nothing new). Currently, the author seems to have a decent update schedule, but we'll see how long this lasts. Full color.


Sfeer Theory

http://sfeertheory.littlefoolery.com/index.html

Sfeer is pronounced "sphere", I think. I don't even know whether to classify this as a science fiction or a fantasy. It's essentially both, intermixed beautifully. Relatively well written with fantastic ideas regarding magic and artwork that makes you sigh. I'm not sure about the update schedule but it seems to be about once a week or so, maybe a week and a half. Full color.


Demon of the Underground

http://www.bob-artist.com/demon/archive.php

I'm not sure if there are shounen-ai themes as of yet (it's hinted in a character description, but not in the comic yet), but it's essentially a science-fiction about the underground networks and black markets of Chicago. Pogo literally falls into this world and has to make it on his own, with his new friend Annie. Updates on Mondays and is done in pencil with splotches of significant color. Rated M (18+).


Oglaf

http://www.oglaf.com/archive/

Definitely 18+ as it's essentially sex comedy. Apparently it started as porn but failed miserably at keeping any serious tone. Gotta say, I genuinely feel sorry for the apprentice. Recommended because it makes me laugh. Full color and updates on Sundays (like today).


Always Raining Here

http://alwaysraininghere.smackjeeves.com/news/

An adorable shounen-ai about a male who recently realized he's gay and wants a f-buddy. However, the only other available gay male has no interest. Not big on high school drama, but this is adorable. Written by Canadians (so there are a couple cultural differences), in color and updates Thursdays.


Zombie Waffe

http://www.zombiewaffe.com/home/

A zombie apocalypse comic with a male main character trying to skillfully work his way out of the hell life's become. Usually in full color with somewhat sporadic updates and I'd rate it PG-13 for gore and some sexual themes (all implied).


Loki

http://loki.smackjeeves.com/

Loki is an interesting western/fantasy comic with no currently apparent plot nearly 3 chapters in. One character is likely gay or bi (there is a racy scene with buttsecks). However, it seems to have just started getting really interesting. The art is in partial color and updates about once a week, sometimes more. I'd rate it PG-13.


Powernap

http://www.powernapcomic.com/archives.html

A science-fiction comic about a man allergic to a pill that makes everyone never need to sleep and strange things have started appearing. Definitely recommend to anyone who's ever suffered from insomnia. It hasn't progressed too far, but I'd rate it around a PG-13 for possible future stuff. Pages in full color and updates sporadically.


The Fox Sister

http://www.thefoxsister.com/news.php

A Korean-mythology themed comic about a woman and her dog searching for her Kuniho sister so that she may kill her and avenge her family. Looks promising, but isn't too far alone in the plot. I'd rate probably a PG-13 for future violence; pages in full color and updates on Thursdays with occasional double updates.


Unsounded

http://www.casualvillain.com/Unsounded/comic+index

I love this comic. It's a fantasy centering on a girl with a tail and a man that is sort of dead. At first, I wasn't sure it was going to be all that great because the first chapter feels somewhat rushed with 2-D characters (I feel like it was written before the author had fully developed her sense of the characters). BUT, it is currently rather far along (I think it's nearly 250 pages?) and the character development after the first chapter is rather significant. You're essentially learning with the two main characters, Duane and Sette (neither know all that much about the other). There are other characters of importance, but they haven't been developed as significantly as the other two yet. DEFINITELY recommend. Updates MWF, in full color and I'd rate PG-13 and maybe R (16+) for more mature themes.


Spindrift

http://www.spindrift-comic.com/index.php

It's a fantasy comic with a lot of potential, but it just started in October. That being said, the artwork is great and build-up is fantastic, but it's only a few pages in after the prologue. In full color with pages released on a weekly basis. At least a PG-13 rating.

Monday, December 19, 2011

Guide to Tokyo Accomodations

Here's a quick synopsis of all the accommodations I've found in Tokyo over my obsession for the last 2 years (quite literally). Please note that the exchange rates change frequently, so please check using Google.

Personally, I suggest you carefully weigh what is important to you when it comes to going abroad. I know it seems really dumb, but people do get horrified by certain conditions and end up wasting money by requesting a transfer to another place or canceling their reservation altogether. I've sat in Yadoya's Maruman and watched this occur with two young French women.

Ask yourself things like:

Am I going to be staying there for awhile or just a few days?
Do I have to have AC? Internet Access? A locker for valuables? Access to a washing machine?
Do I need a private room? Do I need a private bathroom or can I tolerate a communal one?
Do I need storage capacity for a long term stay?* Do I need a TV?
Do I have to have a bed or can I do a Japanese-style futon?
Do I want the place nearby something specific? **

*This is the one I'm really hung up on - I plan on staying at Yadoya for cheapness, but I may end up doing Freshhouse or Oakhouse if I am able to secure a scholarship or two.

**Another hang-up. I fell in love with Nakano, due to the proximity of everything. Otherwise, I'll consider Tama Branch of TenTen Guest House because it's close to my school. Close = walkable distance = save on transportation costs.


Places that have daily rates:

Yadoya
http://www.cheap-accommodation-tokyo.com/

Review: I personally have stayed at Yadoya's Maruman branch. It's good for both short and long stays. While stuff was everywhere due to another young woman living there, it was fairly clean and very inexpensive. The mattresses were thin (cheap Japanese-style futon mattresses) and on wooden slats, but they gave me a comforter, which I put on the mattress and then placed a bed sheet on it. There was a free washer and a small place to dry your clothes outside. Small, but complete, kitchen and a refrigerator. I didn't really have any problems with the other tenants, who literally shared the room with me. Sometimes they did come back late and turned the light on because they were drunk, but no one really yelled or anything. The neighborhood is very well placed. Less than a 5 minute walk to Nakano station, which is less than 5 minutes from Shinjuku. Two convenience stores literally right outside the building in opposite directions, a post office (the foreigner's best friend due to international ATMs) within 50 feet of the exit, Nakano's shopping district and several department stores within 10 minutes of walking. 100 yen shop, etc. AC was included, And this place only cost me 39,000 yen (roughly $450 at the time, now around $500). I plan on staying here again when I study abroad, mainly due to the proximity of my university and the cheapness of the place.

Khaosan
http://www.khaosan-tokyo.com/en/index.html

Haven't stayed here, but it seems cheap and effective for backpacking, but not necessarily long stays. They start at 2000 yen a night ($25) and have several different branches to choose from.

Oak Hotel
http://www.oakhotel.co.jp/english/

Oak Hotel is a sub-company of Oakhouse and is placed in Asakusa, so it's fairly close to the city center. Rooms start at 5800 yen ($75) a night and include: free internet, private shower, access to a kitchen, a laundry facility and a security locker.

Sakura Hostel
http://www.sakura-hostel.co.jp/?gclid=CJbR77Dzj60CFQXd4Aodu30OoA

Not nearly as cheap as some of the other hostels (Khaosan, Yadoya), Sakura Hostel is a sub-company of Sakura House. It claims to be the largest hostel group in Tokyo, but I literally hadn't heard of them until now because the information wasn't as readily available as their guest house info. They do offer a "special rate" for people who reserve up ahead as much as 3 months, making it around 1900 yen a night ($24) and they offer a discount depending on the duration of stay. Like most hostels in the Tokyo area, this one is located in Asakusa.

Sakura Hotel
http://www.sakura-hotel.co.jp/rate.php

Like Sakura Hostel, I hadn't heard of this hotel until now. However, it's a sub-company of Sakura House. Room rates start at around 6090 yen ($80) for a single small room. It's located near the Imperial Palace at the Tokyo Metro stop of Jinbocho.

K's Hostels
http://kshouse.jp/tokyo-e/index.html House Tokyo
http://kshouse.jp/tokyo-oasis-e/index.html Tokyo Oasis
http://kshouse.jp/fuji-e/index.html Fuji-san

First off, they have a Fuji-san guest house, for those interested in seeing that. Secondly, they are fairly priced and located in Asakusa. 2800 yen ($36) for a dormitory and 3000 yen (40) for a women's dormitory at House Tokyo and starting at 2900 yen ($38) a night for the more private Tokyo Oasis.


Places better for longer stays:

Oakhouse
http://www.oakhouse.jp/eng/

Haven't stay here either, but it seems best for long term stays (unless you do Oak Hotel, see below). Unlike the Maruman Branch of Yadoya, Oakhouse gives you a private room, unless otherwise specified. You can even rent apartments. However, you pay dearly for the private room - around 75000 yen ($975) a month, usually more. The further out you get from Inner Tokyo, the larger your room gets, so the prices don't really vary much. They do have a huge coverage area across the Tokyo area, unlike Khaosan, which is focused in Asakusa.

Sakura House
http://www.sakura-house.com/en/

I have read mixed reviews on Sakura House. Some of their buildings are quite old and they seem to use low resolution pictures in the suspicious looking rooms. However, they are the competition of Oakhouse and therefore priced similarly, so I suggest checking them out at your own discretion. Sakura House also offers apartments.

Freshroom
http://www.freshroom.jp/en/houses

I've only discovered them in the last couple of months, but they look legit. They are similarly priced to Oakhouse and Sakura House. The pictures they have online are VERY clean - but this cannot be taken without a grain of salt because of the existence of programs like Photoshop.

Borderless House
http://guesthouse-tokyo.jp/

While most of their facilities are further away from the city center, they generally cost less by around 10000 yen or so ($125).

TenTen Guest House
http://www.tokyo-guesthouse.com/

This place looks very cheap. Not really much else I can say unless I go there - They offer some images of their guest houses, but they don't really specify whether the room is private or not. At 33000 yen ($425) a month near Shinjuku and Ikebukuro, I'd definitely check it out. In fact, as I'm going through their website, I've found yet another wonderful possibility (Tama Branch) for my study abroad, as it's close to my university.

Shinjuku Guest House
http://www.guest-house-tokyo.com/index-en.html

Another new one. It's located in Kagurazaka, Shinjuku, Tokyo and starts at 33000 yen ($425) a month. It doesn't seem like there are any private rooms, but the location is prime real estate.

Bamboo House
http://www.bamboo-house.com/

Bau House
http://www.bauhousetokyo.com/index.html

Guest House Hanata
http://www.bekkoame.ne.jp/i/hanata/rates.html

Interwhao
http://www.interwhao.com/english/g_gakugei.html

Koyomiya House
http://koyomiya.jp/englishindex.html

U & I House
http://home.att.ne.jp/sun/U-I_house/

Yoshida House
http://yoshidahouse.net/en/index_en.html


If you have anything to contribute to this, please leave a comment. It can either be another guest house/hostel or a review. I will personally edit this and quote your review (as long as it sounds fair). Simple saying, "I went there and it was great/terrible" isn't sufficient. Please give pros and cons their weight.

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Monotheistic Religions

I'm in the middle of exams, so obviously I'm looking for any reason to avoid studying. Take this article, for example:

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/text/eo20111219gd.html

It's so sad that it's mostly true. What's wrong with being a woman who can drive? What's wrong with beautiful female voices? Heck, what's wrong with the idea that sex is between lovers, not necessarily husband and wife? Why are orthodox religions obsessed with this? The reason they married people off was so that paternity wasn't as much in question and therefore paternal child care wasn't a problem. Plus people couldn't support themselves in that time. People married young because they died young and depended on each other for survival. Now? If I'm lucky, I'll live to be 100. I haven't even hit 20 yet. Why marry the man I love if we both know and understand that we love each other and aren't ready to tie the knot?

And why does every religion point the finger at women being corrupting? In my experience, men will think about women no matter what. It's genetics. The men who think about getting dirty with women more often will be more likely to get it on more often and therefore produce offspring with that gene. That being the case...it doesn't matter if you throw a birqa on a woman. Hiding the elephant isn't going to make it go away.

And to leave it with a quote for the day: "Not a sermon, just a thought."

Thursday, December 8, 2011

Overpriced College Shit

So, as much of my generation understands, college prices are rising while average incomes are not. But I'm not ranting today about the bullshit of spending $20K + a year for living away at an INSTATE college. I'm here to rant about the bullshit of the college "meal plan".

Every university does it a little differently, but it's all the same. First off, the crap food you get is overpriced. Now don't get me wrong, some of the choices are quite delicious. But plastic-tasting macaroni, greasy pizza and a slice of pie shouldn't come out to about $8. In high school, it would've cost $5 and students were complaining then. But the majority of meals are much more expensive than that. I usually spend about $10 for rice, some meat and veges and a soda. The meat isn't even quality - I constantly pick around at bits of fatty, tough or grisly meat and I've even gotten a chip of bone a couple of times.

Next, they force you to buy a "meal plan". My average meal plan costs me around $1950 (a couple dollars short). It's fucking ridiculous. $1900 worth of food for 3 months? You're shitting me. That's roughly $160 a WEEK on just food. But no, not only does that NOT roll over to the next semester, it also gets $500 skimmed off the top for a "facilities fee". The university does NOT pay for having food available on campus. The on-campus student does. So you pay $1950 for the following breakdown 1049 meal points, 275 special points, and 16 meals at the new all-you-can-eat place. The special points are the good ones - you can go to the university-run convenience stores on campus and buy things at ridiculous prices ($1.50 for 450mL of juice, $4 for a half gallon of juice, $5.50 for a tray of 30 oreos, just to name a couple). They have emergency school supplies, medical supplies, etc as well. The meal points and special points are essentially dollars named points. The meals are usually $18 a pop, but are included in your plan at a discounted rate.

But wait, there's more! So if you include all of the cash points, you have roughly $110 a week to spend. That's still really high and training students to start terrible habits. Between the two of them, my dad and brother usually spend around $75 a week on what I get $110 for. And as I mentioned above, if I don't use all of my remaining $250 in the next week and a half, I loose it. This is with me treating my roommates to a fancy restaurant using those points and dishing out money to pay for the special all-you-can-eat place about 6 times. Part of it is I don't eat much, part of it is I go home on the weekends for work.

So that's based on the "average" plan. So I looked into the "additional" options offered after your first year on campus. The CHEAPEST meal plan offered is at a whopping $1749.50. That's not even the best part - for that $200 discount, you get ONLY 304 points. My roommate was saying they add up differently and are not equivalent to dollars at all, but with her eating every other meal from home (mother sending her food all the time) and her going home every weekend, she'll barely have enough points at the end of the semester. So my option is go hungry and carefully keep track of where I eat OR spend $200 more on something I don't need? I'm torn.

College is a bitch.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Definition of Reality

So this is a curious topic. Reality means, by definition on the Merriam-Webster webpage, totality of real things or the quality/state of being real. This in turn, makes me look up the strict definition of real. Real, again using the Merriam-Webster dictionary website, means not being artificial, fraudulent or illusory. Again, this makes me look up the definition of illusion. An Illusion, according to Merriam-Webster, is the state of being intellectually deceived or the perception of something objectively existing in such a way that causes misinterpretation.

Based on this, reality seems relatively straightforward. But these definitions don't necessarily give the concept of one's own reality. In fact, what you perceive to be true, whether or not it is the truth, drastically effects how you perceive your reality. So truth is all subjective.

Take this situation as an example: your diamond ring goes missing. At the same time, your friend obtains a ring that looks exactly like the one you lost, leading you to believe that they stole it from you. The evidence does point to your friend being the perpetrator, but your friend tells you that she bought the ring the day before yours went missing. However, when asked to produce a receipt, she cannot because she threw it away. While this was an error on her part (almost everyone I know throws away their receipts, even though I was always taught to keep them), she did actually buy the ring. But everything points to your friend stealing your ring. Therefore, you shape this into your reality and you can no longer trust your friends. It doesn't matter what your friend says, because you've already unconsciously passed judgement and no longer trust her.

Take another situation: your lover goes away on a business trip. He returns with lipstick on his collar or perfume on his clothes. If you want dramas or movies, obviously he was having an affair. But he tells you he had gone to a bar or a strip club with some colleagues and that a woman had come onto him, which he politely declined. There is nothing you can do to prove otherwise, because you weren't there. You ask him to produce a receipt and he says that there was a joint tab and one of his other colleagues paid it off. This wears at your conscience and eventually you lose trust in your partner.

Now in both of these situations I used the pronoun "you" as means of immersing you, the reader, into the situation. While I gave you, the reader, all the major facts, the you in the situation only knows one side. Please keep this in mind when thinking about these situations.

And now for the final bit: your reality and memories can change via suggestion. For instance, I can suggest that your lover also hadn't answered his phone that day. You would then further attribute that as evidence to his affair, even though it was because he had been in a meeting all day and was unable to answer it. I could also suggest that your friend had been near your jewelry box on the day your ring disappeared, even though she was helping your clean your house. Again, further evidence.

I find that those with a very vivid imagination (those who tend to write, read, or draw especially) tend to do this a little less than the average person, and I think this is in part because they walk the fine line between the worlds/lives they create and the world we live in. But I also find in the case with many people that in part, they have a tendency to exaggerate facts or recounting of details. Just about everyone has done this, to some degree.

Now this is not necessarily a bad thing. It makes for an interesting story, for sure. But the tricky part is when you do this with memories. You have the ability to change your memories over time. The key example is societies who recite history and stories orally. Over time, they are warped into something considerably different than what actually happened. "He was rather tall" turns into "he has as big as a house". Or, in the case above, "My lover hadn't really talked to me that day" turns into "he never talks to me" which turns into "he's grown so cold toward me". Now you might not think this is all that valid, but think about it the next time you exaggerate.

Last bit of food for thought is how a positive memory can turn negative. If you bring up a positive memory when you are feeling down, it gets a slightly negative connotation. If you do it enough, eventually the memory will become negative. So, for instance, you're upset and you look at a picture of the person who you're upset with. It, for me, usually brings mixed feelings to the surface and usually results in me throwing the picture down in disgust. The better thing to do is listen to music when you're upset - that way you don't ruin all your good memories.